Ego as a new-born has no command or ownership of the body. The sense of the separate form of the body belonging to us, needing protection and movement by us, is acquired for everyone at that age; this was learned. The major thrill after one does a trick while cycling which can be leaving the handlebar while riding or riding on one tire still in motion. More than the act, it is fact that others notice you doing it that is important. In fact, we wander to see if others have really noticed you while doing the act. The craving is not to perform the act, but to get noticed.
The conversation of Businessman and Mystic Yogi about ego:
One day this businessman meets the mystic yogi at an ashram in the Himalayas. He praised him and asked Yogi if he can ask few questions, the yogi said to go on. He asks sometimes I perform actions in life to please myself, what is it that makes me do it?
Yogi says everybody experiences this period of life where the ego drives one to do anything and everything without exception only to get noticed. It is a phase when decent is decent only when it gains attention; even evil is decent if it can draw attention, and ironically, even decent is evil if it fails to attract attention. The ego survives on gaining attention. But then, one must outgrow that phase of life.
Businessman says, How should I outgrow this phase or part of me when it’s good for me?
Yogi answers, by its actual nature, ego needs feeding; and hence it is a perpetual beggar. The problem with ego is that when the ego is fed, you struggle with a superiority complex, and when the ego is starved you suffer from an inferiority complex. Either way, it robs you of your peace of mind.
Businessman understands it but still is reluctant towards his nature of ego. He says I have gained so much because of this part of me.
Yogi says with very soft tone, how many golden opportunities have been missed while you were busy servicing your ego? Every moment is heavy, every situation is nerve-racking, every interaction is tense… an ego-filled heart is always walking on fire. Never can there be a moment of marriage between ego and comfort.
How many precious relationships have been lost in order to satisfy one’s ego? While you should have dropped the ego and saved the relationships, you ended up dropping the relationships and saving ego. Ego is never worth the losses.
Businessman says, yes I went through the same phase.
Yogi gives an example, a crow carrying a piece of meat found itself being chased by all the other birds. It dropped the piece of meat, and all the birds went after the meat. Now, alone in the sky, the crow remarked, “In losing that piece of meat, I gained the freedom of the skies.”
The Businessman understand that there is enormous freedom in letting your ego go.
Ego is the only requirement to destroy the relationships & opportunity, so be a big-hearted person skip the “E” and let it “GO”.